This Blog's 'Big Questions'

I've been blogging now for nearly three years and find myself here and elsewhere coming back to the same questions over and over. While writing my recent tribute to "Father's Day" I found myself recalling a previous post on nearly the same subjects.

I think that some of the more interesting posts on this blog and conversations that they have stimulated revolve around essentially two questions:

1. How do GLBT families differ from their heterosexual counterparts?

and

2. What are the consequences (if any) to the children of GLBT folks in being exactly that, children of GLBT folks?

These two questions seem astonishingly simple on one hand, yet agonizingly complex to answer and in their implications on the other.

I cannot claim to have answered these questions. If anything, this blog has allowed me to take some tentative steps toward putting the questions out into the world and supplying some personal anecdotal information to help us answer them. What follows are links to a collection of the posts on this blog that have related to the two Big Questions as well as other major themes.

Queer Spawn Stuff

The Name Game

Just don't call me "late for dinner": November 14, 2004

A Rose By Any Other Name: January 11, 2005

The World's Best Dad: January 12, 2005

On Getting Nowhere (the Name Issue): January 14, 2005

Banana Fana Fo Fana Fee Fi Mo Mana (The Name Issue): January 14, 2005

Titles, Names and other Sundry Topics: December 18, 2005

On Becoming a SAHM: May 8, 2006

More on the Name Game: May 26, 2006

Q&A: June 2, 2006

The Dialectic of Parent Names: June 16 2006

More Name Games: September 25, 2006

Outcomes

Background: The New York Times' Piece: November 14, 2004

Letter to the Editor (not accepted): November 16, 2004

Assessment: How do ACLP or "Queer Spawn" Turn Out?: November 19th, 2004

A Resource for ACGPs: November 19, 2004

The Upcoming Rainbow Families Conference: January 30th, 2005

Non-P.C. Pondering: February 9th, 2005

More On Loss: February 14, 2005

On Getting What We Get: February 14, 2005

More More More on Getting What You Get: February 16, 2005

GreenStone Talkshow: November 20th, 2006

Kids' Questions

The Question We've Been Waiting For: February 2, 2005

The King and the King: February 16, 2005

The King and the King Revisited: May 25, 2005

And Now. . . The Question We've All Been Waiting For (Part Deux): June 5, 2007

The World Around Us

Donor vs. Dad: June 22, 2005

Differential Treatment: August 16, 2005

The Economics of Donor Insemination: November 20, 2005

Sperm Regulation?: June6, 2006

From The Horse’s Mouth: December 18, 2006

Follow-Up on the Angry DI Conceived Child’s Column: December 21, 2006

Just Another Day at the Urban Toddler Community Center: February 23, 2007

Overheard in Minneapolis Part III: March 21, 2007

The Long Anticipated Father-Daughter Dance: April 11, 2007

GLBT Family Issues

Baseball, Apple Pie, The Fourth of July and Thanksgiving: November 22, 2004

The Superwoman Myth: Do Lesbian Mothers Experience it Too?: December 3, 2004

Info About Local Showing of Buster: February 25, 2005

I Finally Figured It Out: February 27th, 2005

Is Gay Marriage the New Abortion?: June 24, 2005

Blogging for LGBT Families: June 1, 2006

Gay Marriage: Not The Political Punch It Once Was: October 16, 2006

Gay Marriage Cause and Effect: November 9th, 2006

Comments on Mother’s Day: May 9, 2007

2nd Annual Blogging for LGBT Families Day: June 1, 2007

Gender/Sexuality

Learning From the Four-Year-Old: December 29, 2004

Nature/Nurture: January 27, 2005

Purposeful Conception: March 4, 2005

More Interesting Gender Phenomena: March 11, 2006

Amber Davis' Photography: October 6, 2006

The Effects of Moving Down the Gender Scale: November 15th, 2006

Just Because It's Science Doesn't Mean It's Objective: April 11, 2007

Is it A Happy Father's Day When the Lesbian Father Out-Mothers the BioMother?: June 14, 2007

Economics and Family/Motherhood/Gender/Sexuality

Price Discrimination: November 18, 2004

Will Your Marriage Last?: January 13, 2005

Children As Public Goods: April 14, 2005

$131,471: May 6, 2005

New Day, Same Old @%#&: September 20th, 2005

The Baby Boon: May 26, 2005

Nature v. Nurture: A Tie!: December 13, 2006

Mind the Gap: January 25, 2006

Cognitive Reflection and its Gender/Sex/Sexuality Dimensions: January 29, 2006

Working Girls: March 23, 2006

Thinking of Having More Kids? Wait! Read This: April 18, 2007

 The Dialectical Ultra-Capitalist and Utopian-Socialist Worlds of Children’s Accessories: May 20, 2007

On-Topic Writings Published Elsewhere

Girls Can't Marry Other Girls: Journal of Feminist Family Therapy