Homesickness

What is it? While you may physically leave home, psychologically it may take some time to separate and  create your own identity. It is natural to have feelings of sadness and miss your family, and want to visit them, especially during times of stress, sickness or crisis.

Why does it concern me? It can be hard to stay on and complete a study program when you are feeling homesick and all you want to do is be at home.

What can I do about it? Remember that a phone call can be just as supportive as actually going home. It can also help to identify your feelings towards your family. You can decide on what level of relationship and autonomy you want. Recognize it doesn't have to be all or nothing.   Value and use the support available to you, there may be people who care about you and have a lot of life experience to offer you.  The telephone, email or letters are a convenient way of keeping in touch and letting your family know what is happening.  Sometimes other relatives may be geographically closer than your immediate family, and it may be useful to develop  supportive adult relationships with them.  Care for and keep yourself safe.  Develop new support systems and friends and  work  on the type of new relationship you want and them and with your family. Become involved in a club or sport which is also a great way to make new friends. By doing so you will  be in a strong position to make your experience of leaving home and coming to University an exciting and positive time. 

Written by:  Karen Londre, Clinical Psychologist