Am I being stalked?

Definitions vary by jurisdiction, but the general definition of stalking is a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear.  

Incidents can occur on a regular basis (every day/week/month) or infrequently.  Regardless, if the action(s) make you feel unsafe, it could be stalking.

Each year 1,006,970 women and 370,990 men are stalked in the U.S. In addition, 77 percent of female victims and 64 percent of male victims know their stalker. However, whether being stalked by someone close to you or someone you barely know, you should take it seriously and report it as soon as possible. 

Stalking can and often does escalate and can be lethal. A study in 1999 found that 76 percent of female homicide victims murdered by their intimate partner had also been stalked by that partner. Therefore, it is important to tell someone about the stalking in order to keep you safe.

Examples of Stalking:

Following someone, watching them from afar, continuous phone calls or text messages, delivering unwanted items/gifts to a person's residence, place of work, using other people to make contact. Stalking can also be done via technology, such as constant e-mails, through chat rooms, instant & text messaging, cell phones and pagers,  and/or GPS tracking systems.

What to do if you are being stalked

If you are in immediate danger, call University Police at 789-9999 or 911.

Stalking is series of actions that cause a person to feel fear, so keep a log of all unwanted contact (calls, e-mails, gifts, messages, following, watching, property damage, contact through others). If the action, event, contact scared you, write it down. Also, contact campus or local law enforcement for each incident. By reporting each incident, evidence builds that the person is stalking you. Important evidence to include is:

  • Date and time of each incident
  • Description of what it was (e-mail, gift, contact from another person, damage to property, following you, etc.)
  • Witnesses, if any. 
  • How you felt, what you did (told someone besides police, checked out areas of your home/work, etc.)
  • If you reported it to police, write down date and time of report, officer's name, and report number. Ask for a copy of the police report. 
  • Contact any of the resources listed on the Reporting Options (on-and off-campus) for information and help, like developing a safety plan or obtaining a court order to keep the stalker away.

Develop a safety plan. This includes things like:

  • Varying routes to and from work and/or school
  • Find people to call or stay with you when don't feel safe
  • Changing phone numbers, where you live, or changing class schedules.
  • A plan for what to do if the stalker comes to your home, dorm or work
  • Try to go places with other people you know and trust who will look out for you. When out alone, avoid places where there are few people
  • There is safety in numbers, so tell people around you (friends, co-workers, etc.) about the stalking and how they can help, like not giving out your phone number/address/work schedule/class schedule to anyone without your permission.
  • Contact the Violence Prevention Office at 608.785.5126 or for assistance.

DO NOT communicate with the stalker or respond to any attempts to contact you.

How to help someone experiencing stalking

Listen. Show support. Don't blame them for what is happening to them. Tell them you are worried about them and ask how you can help. 

Encourage them to seek help, and help them obtain information about resources on campus and off. 

Don't tell the person what they should do, and be patient. Support their decisions on what to do.

Avoid confronting the stalker. It could be dangerous not just for you but for the person being stalked.

Reporting Options


If you are in immediate danger, contact University Police: (608)789-9999 or 911.

UWL students are encouraged to report stalking and seek help from any of the individuals listed below.

For assistance, please view the Resources page.

Consequences for Offender

When reported to on-campus officials and the person being stalked chooses to have disciplinary action taken:

When determining the severity of consequences for those found to be stalking another student, the circumstances of each incidence are considered by the administration. Students who are found to be engaging in stalking behavior have not only committed a state and federal crime, but have also violated the Code of Student Conduct outlined in the student handbook. The university may impose sanctions for violations of the Code of Student Conduct up to and including expulsion from the university.

When reported to off-campus officials and the person being stalked chooses to press charges:

If convicted, stalking is a Class I felony (fine of up to $10,000, or imprisonment of up to three and a half years, or both). However, in some circumstances, the penalties are greater than they are for a Class I felony. The following describes some of these circumstances:

  • If the stalker had previously been convicted of certain violent acts against the same victim, stalking against the victim, certain acts of criminal harassment, or any crime against the same victim in the last seven years, stalking is a Class H felony (fine of up to $10,000, or imprisonment of up to six years, or both).
  • If the stalker "gained access or caused another person to gain access to a record in electronic format that contains personally identifiable information regarding the victim," stalking is a Class H felony.
  • If the victim was under 18 years of age at the time of the violation, stalking is a Class H felony. If the stalking resulted in bodily harm to the victim, the victim's family, or a member of the victim's household, stalking is a Class F felony (fine of up to $25,000, or imprisonment of up to 12-1/2 years, or both).
  • If the stalker used a dangerous weapon to stalk the victim, stalking is a Class F felony.
  • If the stalker was convicted for domestic abuse, sexual assault, stalking, certain criminal harassment crimes, or certain violent crimes in the seven year period before the current stalking act, stalking is a Class F felony.