Posted p.m. Thursday, March 20, 2014
Professor busts myth that men are less capable of emotional connection than women.
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Ryan McKelley, associate professor of psychology at UW-L.[/caption]
Ryan McKelley, licensed psychologist and UW-L associate professor of psychology, shared an early experiment from the 13th century where infants were denied social interaction. The nature of the study was to find out what language would naturally develop without influence from a caregiver. However, the study failed because all of the infants died.
McKelley was one of six people from the UW-L campus and La Crosse community who shared a story about “turning points” in society or their personal lives during a TEDx event on campus in November.
Many are familiar with TED Talks, an award-winning video site that is a branch of the TED non-profit organization. TEDx events are independently coordinated to give communities, organizations and individuals the opportunity to stimulate dialogue through TED-like experiences at the local level.
Study after study has shown that social isolation is a risk factor for development of disease, explained McKelley during the presentation. It highlights the importance of social connection for mental and physical health, yet the stereotype is that men are less capable of emotional connection than women, notes McKelley. McKelley suggests otherwise. Studies show when men’s physiological responses to emotional stimuli are measured, their internal experience is similar to that of women.
McKelley wants men to do away with the mask. Sometimes emotional restriction is necessary, but it doesn’t need to be the default mode, he says. He challenges men to eliminate phrases like “man up” or “stop acting like a girl.” They should understand that opening up and being vulnerable is courageous. Taking small risks to open up will give them a broader experience of all of their emotions and allow them to make deeper connections.
Ryan McKelley, associate professor of psychology at UW-L.[/caption]
Ryan McKelley, licensed psychologist and UW-L associate professor of psychology, shared an early experiment from the 13th century where infants were denied social interaction. The nature of the study was to find out what language would naturally develop without influence from a caregiver. However, the study failed because all of the infants died.
McKelley was one of six people from the UW-L campus and La Crosse community who shared a story about “turning points” in society or their personal lives during a TEDx event on campus in November.
Many are familiar with TED Talks, an award-winning video site that is a branch of the TED non-profit organization. TEDx events are independently coordinated to give communities, organizations and individuals the opportunity to stimulate dialogue through TED-like experiences at the local level.
Study after study has shown that social isolation is a risk factor for development of disease, explained McKelley during the presentation. It highlights the importance of social connection for mental and physical health, yet the stereotype is that men are less capable of emotional connection than women, notes McKelley. McKelley suggests otherwise. Studies show when men’s physiological responses to emotional stimuli are measured, their internal experience is similar to that of women.
McKelley wants men to do away with the mask. Sometimes emotional restriction is necessary, but it doesn’t need to be the default mode, he says. He challenges men to eliminate phrases like “man up” or “stop acting like a girl.” They should understand that opening up and being vulnerable is courageous. Taking small risks to open up will give them a broader experience of all of their emotions and allow them to make deeper connections.