Do you see yourself or a friend in the following?

  • Are you afraid of your partner or feel like you have to walk on pins and needles sometimes to keep your partner from getting angry?
  • Has your partner ever hit, slapped, or pushed you?
  • Do you ever get the feeling you've done something wrong but you'd have to read your partner's mind to find out what it is?
  • Is your partner very good to you most of the time -- sometimes downright wonderful, but every once in a while very cruel or scary?
  • Have you been forced by your partner to do something you didn't want to do?
  • Have you lost all or most of your friends since you've been with your partner?
  • Do you feel isolated, like there's nowhere to turn for help, and that no one would believe you anyway?
  • If your partner asks, do you feel like you have to say everything's okay even when it's really not?
  • Have you ever been in a relationship where you could have answered "yes" to these questions, but right now you're past all that?

How about these questions ...

  • Is your partner afraid of you sometimes?
  • Are you very protective and jealous of your partner?
  • Have you ever hit, slapped or pushed your partner?
  • Have you ever threatened your partner or said, "Don't make me angry!"?
  • Have you ever thrown things or hit walls during an argument with your partner?
  • Do you find yourself "convincing" your partner on a regular basis to do things that he or she would rather not do?
  • Have you ever intentionally harmed or broken something which was important to your partner?
  • Are you sure that you don't have an abuse problem because you see people around you doing worse all the time?

If you found yourself answering "yes"  to several of the preceding questions, then violence may be a problem in your relationship.  
For help and assistance, make an appointment to talk to a counselor at the UWL Counseling & Testing Center.